In William Ury’s book, The Power of a Positive No [affiliate link], he begins with a quote I want to share:  “A ‘No’ uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.” – Mahatma Gandhi

How many times have you said YES because you were afraid to say NO?  Or you weren’t sure how to say no without potentially hurting a relationship or someone else’s feelings?  Does YES instinctively fly out of your mouth? Do people compliment you into a YES by saying things like “You are so good at this…” or “I know it would barely take you any time…”

Beware of the word YES!  YES to others is often the same as saying NO to yourself.  Putting your dreams, goals, plans and business behind the needs of others… did you even stop to look at it that way?

I challenge you to consciously say NO more than you say yes for at least a day.

Engage your family and friends – tell them to bombard you with questions so you can practice saying no.  “Will you do the laundry?” NO.  “Can I borrow $5?” NO.  “Can I have your house?” NO.  Have fun with it!  The more you practice, the easier it will get.

Here’s to your creative success – and your comfort with the word NO.

– Tara Reed

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