I love Gray’s Anatomy. And Bailey?  Well she’s just the coolest.  That woman can keep it together in the face of some serious adversity.  Be tough as nails or soft and compassionate depending on the needs of her patients.

On October 15th, Bailey had to fly a patient to California – right onto the set of Private Practice.  (Another guilty pleasure!)  In Right Here, Right Now we really got to see both sides of Bailey.

Bailey’s going through a bit of a tough patch. (Sort of like the economy… there, I said it!)  Her husband went off with a mom from a playgroup, in part because her work demands too much of her time and she is left with little for her family.  So now she’s a single mom of a toddler, attending at Seattle Grace and in California because Izzy about killed her patient who had been waiting for a liver for 3 years!  (I like to keep the drama in my life on the tv set – with an on / off button – and these two shows always provide!)

But since this isn’t “Soap Opera Review”, I’ll get to my point that relates to artists…

A theme that went through the espisode was Bailey saying that her cup (and the world’s cup) was ‘half empty’. To me, that meant she felt defeated, empty, struggling to fight the good fight.  I also believe that she is usually a “cup half full” kind of person, as am I.  Maybe that’s why I was so struck and empathetic with her when she sat on the deck with Addison, telling her that her cup was half empty and she just didn’t want to talk about it.


I think people have a pre-disposition. You either naturally see things as ‘half full’ or ‘half empty’ – it’s like it’s biologically embedded in people.  Or maybe we are trained that way by our parents.  We could probably have a whole nature vs. nuture debate about it.

But to continue the road to my point:  I believe that no matter what your natural inclination, everyone has both at some point in their lives.

I’m normally a “glass half-full” kind of person. But sometimes, my vision blurs and things look half-empty. I hate when that happens!  But as I said, I believe it happens to all of us at some point.

Maybe you get tired, run out of energy and all the sudden the world looks ‘half-empty’.  I know this can happen to me when I’m sick or after a trip that requires every ounce of energy and enthusiasm I can muster.

So what can you do about it? When you find yourself in a ‘half-empty’ state of mind, here are five strategies to get back to the ‘half-full’ and happier side of life:

  1. Unplug.  Take a break and let your body regain it’s energy.  If you keep pushing yourself to the max, how do you expect to recoup the energy you have put out there?
  2. Pamper yourself.  Pampering looks different to everyone, do what works for you.  Maybe you go to the gym, get your nails done, get a massage or acupuncture, go to a movie in the afternoon or stay in your pjs all day.  Whatever works for you, DO IT!
  3. Surround yourself with “half-full” people.  Avoid people that you know will let you wallow in ‘half-empty land’.  They are probably wonderful people overall – family, friends, neighbors – but they aren’t good for you right now.  Go find some very optimistic, energetic and upbeat person and just bask in the light of their energy!  It’s contagious and you will find yourself feeling better – I promise!
  4. Read.  Find something that inspires you or whisks you away to another time and place – letting you escape the circle of half-emptiness your brain is in.  Be it a blog and book or magazine – whatever works!
  5. Create.  If you are reading this blog, you are most likely an artist.  Get lost in creativity. Try something new.  Experiment. Play!

May you live your life seeing things around you as ‘half-full’ most days and when the lens changes to half-empty, may you find the way to fill it up again!

Here’s to your creative success!

– Tara