You might be surprised…
Since I seem to be telling everyone who will listen that they should read The Big Leap, I thought I’d blog about why I am so head-over-heels with this book.
(All of the links in this post are affiliate links – if you click them and buy the book, I think I will make 40¢. If you aren’t ok with that, don’t click them, k? Now, back to my thoughts… the FTC should be happy with my transparency 🙂 )
Have you ever heard writers or motivational speakers talk about our “inner thermostat”? That we all have a set point that we are comfortable with – when it comes to the temperature of our bodies to the amount of money we are comfortable having. When things get too far from our set point, we do things – both consciously and subconciously – to get back to our comfort zone.
Temperature is a great place to start. I like to be cooler than my husband. He LOVES summer – sitting out in the sun and sweating in 90+ degree weather is his idea of paradise. It’s my idea of Chinese torture. I like the upper 60s and low 70s – where it is nice but I don’t work up a sweat walking across the street to the mailbox. I HATE to sweat and will do all kinds of things to avoid it.
Some people are like that with money. If they hang out with people who think anyone with more than enough to barely pay their bills are bad people, then you will do your best to stay at the “just scraping by” level yourself to fit in. There are story after story of lottery winners who couldn’t handle the sudden and drastic change in wealth and what it did to their relationships and life that they lost it quickly.
These things aren’t always as dramatic as that… but I bet you anything you have certain beliefs or fears about SUCCESS AS AN ARTIST that you don’t even realize. And if you don’t realize the beliefs, you are even less likely to see the things you do to sabotage yourself. I mean really, there is some serious group-think about what it means to be an artist – does it mean you aren’t “real” if you make money? Are you “selling out” if you can pay your bills? Does almost everyone you meet assume you don’t make money when you say you are an artist? Society and artists have a lot of predisposed ideas of what being an artist means… read this book and get out of your own way.
As part of the business program I am in, we had to read The Big Leap before we got started. At our first in person even we spent a bit of time talking about what we discovered about ourselves. As the two days went on, we discovered even more as we talked, were heard and really thought harder about how we were holding ourselves back and why.
This isn’t easy work… there were lots of tissues and tears but with them came some major breakthroughs in understanding.
If you are willing to do the personal work to better understand yourself and the things that make you tick, you can really shift the results you get in other areas of your life – from relationships to yes, business.
I have found the information in this book to be invaluable and I don’t think I’ve even scratched the surface of how I am holding myself back. I’m trying to get a lot of my friends and those in my support system to read it too so we can discuss it and help point out places where we are “upper limiting”. Those who have have joined me in a new way of looking at things, supporting each other and even talking. (Have you ever had anyone say “you are upper limiting yourself?” before and do you know what it means? You will if you read the book!)
SO… if you want to better understand how and why you might be holding yourself back from what you say you want – go get AND READ this book!
Here’s to your creative success!
– Tara Reed